Tuesday, September 30, 2008

1st gift

this is the teddy bear that my honey gave me on our 1st month as a couple

something to think about!

this is funny pero may point ako! para sa mga taong nanliligaw, nagbabalak manligaw, nililigawan, naliligaw, nag-iintay maligawan at nagbabalak lumagay sa magulo……….

ang love ay hindi minamadali… hindi pinipilit.. at lalong hindi kina-career…aray ko

unang-una…

PAANO MO BA NASABING MAHAL MO NA SIYA???…

GAANO MO NA BA SIYA KAKILALA???…
dahil ba natutuwa ka sa kanya???… o kaya naman naaaliw ka???… naswee-sweetan ka ba ng sobra sa kanya???… kinikilig ka ba pag nakikita mo siya???… at nahi-high kapag naririnig mo na ang boses niya???…

eh teka muna… baka naman infatuated ka lang…. o kaya naman kagaya nga ng sagot mo… BAKA naaaliw ka lang… dahil kakaiba siya… may spark na hindi mo maintindihan…

tsk!!!… ang saklap nyan!…

pangalawa…
madali ba siyang mapikon???… pano ba siya mabadtrip???… madali bang mahalata na may topak siya???… ano bang suot niya pag nasa bahay siya???… shorts ba o pantalon???… nakasando ba siya o naka-t-shirt lang???… matagal ba siyang maligo???…. kumakain ba siya ng vegetables???… tamad ba siya???… mas gusto ba niyang manood ng tv kaysa magbasa ng libro???… nagpe-play station ba siya???… tatlo ba ang pamangkin niyang lalaki???… makukulit ba yung mga kamag-anak niya???… green ba ang kulay ng gate ng bahay nila???… sa village ba siya nakatira???… may sakayan ba ng jeep na malapit sa kanila???… nagsisimba ba siya linggo-linggo???… kasama ba yung pamilya niya???… at nagdadasal ba siya bago matulog???…

in short… alam mo na nga ba???… ang mga bagay-bagay… ang mga simpleng bagay tungkol sa kanya… na nagdedetermine ng sarili niya… as in kung sino ba talaga SIYA…

pangatlo…

KAYA MO BA SIYANG TANGGAPIN???…

HINDI MO LANG SIYA TANGGAP…

tama na kasi ang trip… tama na ang pagmamadali… oo masarap ngang mainvolve sa isang tao… pero diba mas masarap yun…

LALO NA KUNG ALAM MONG TOTOO YUNG NARARAMDAMAN MO…
as in TANGGAPIN ng buong-buo…

sa lahat ng trip niya sa buhay… sa lahat ng katopakan niya… sa lahat ng pag-iinarte at pag-dadrama niya… sa lahat ng kasalanang nagawa, ginawa, at gagawin pa lang niya… sa lahat ng naiisip niya… sa lahat ng sasabihin niya… sa kilos niya… sa pananamit niya… sa pagsasalita… sa pananaw niya sa buhay… sa pagtrato niya sa tao… sa lifestyle niya… sa uri ng pamilyang meron siya… sa uri ng kaibigang kasa-kasama niya… sa style niya pagdating sa love… sa kasweetan niyang natural… sa paglalambing niya… sa tawa niyang pagkalakas-lakas… sa manners niya… sa bisyo niya kung meron man… sa mga pang-aasar niya sayo… sa style niya pagdating sa pagsolve ng problema… sa problemang maaari ka ring masama…

pang-apat…

KAYA MO BANG MAGING TOTOO???…

kaya mo bang makita yung sarili mo… na kasama pa rin siya ha… sa isang sitwasyong pag naisip mo eh… mapapaiyak ka na lang sa sakit… nang dahil din sa kanya???…

kaya mo bang magmukhang tanga… as in umiyak ng dahil sa kababawan… ibuhos ang mga nararamdaman mo… kahit na puro kababawan nga lang naman… as in kahit sa harapan niya???…

kaya mo bang maging barubal pag kasama mo siya???… yung tipo bang wala ka ng pakielam… mawala man ang manners mo… na wala ka naman talaga…

in short…

KAYA MO BANG MAGING IKAW KAPAG KASAMA MO NA SIYA???…

yung tipong hindi ka nahihiyang ipakita kung sino ka talaga…

dahil alam mong…
TANGGAP KA RIN NIYA…

BUONG-BUO RIN…

MGA TAO!!!…

for you

Have you ever wondered which hurts the most? Saying something and wishing you hadn't? or saying nothing and wishing you had? I guess the most important things are the hardest things t o say. Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them. If you do, they might break your heart…if you don't, you might break theirs. Have you ever decided not to become a couple because you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person? Your heart decides whom it likes and whom it doesn't. You can't tell your heart w hat to do. It does it on its own….when you least suspect it, or even when you don't want it to. Have you ever wanted to love someone with everything you had, but that other person was too afraid to let you? Too many of us stay walled up because we are too afraid to care too much…for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all. Have you ever denied your feelings for someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle? We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing we fear grows stronger . Life is all about risks and it requires you to jump. Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what they would have done, or could have had. * What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye? *What would you do if every time you wanted someone they would never be there? *What would you do if your best friend died tomorrow and you never got to tell them how you felt?

galera last may 2006

this is when i went to puerto galera with my church friends last may 2006, i have no blog yet at that time kaya ngyaon ko lang na-post mga pics namin.... here are some of the photos....



inside the room


with my friend cris



enjoying the beach :)

with the owner of the house that we stayed






when we arrived at batangas pier.... :)
we stayed there for 3 days and 2 nights, although not all our friends were kasama, still it was fun and memorable, rio was super hilarious especially on our last night there, super patawa talaga xia!!!! :)

“what happens when someone breaks your heart?”

When someone breaks your heart, first you are SHOCKED.Someone will say you are heartbroken and you examine the words break, and heart, and heartbroken, and you immediately decide that’s its inaccurate. You feel pain in the region of your heart and you think it’s your heart breaking but one’s heart doesn’t really break, something else does – faith. You stop believing. No, not in the big things which are most of the time irrelevant? You still believe in God or Buddha or some supreme being. You still believe that child prostitution is bad. You just stop believing in small things that you do, that gives you meaning to your daily life, and begin to think everything is priorities. Why get up? Why dress up? Why breathe in and out? What for? When someone breaks your heart, (your faith), you stop believing and you switch off the lights inside your heart. Someone is home but someone is lying in the dark, in the room farthest from the gate, and that someone can’t hear anything. Friends, parents, they all come to call her from the gate (‘come out” which means “move on”). But they are unheard, unseen, and unacknowledged. When someone breaks your heart, you turn into a small ball of self-pity. You lie in bed, in a ball. You hug your knees, keeping them close to your chest, like a fetus. Freud said its human instinct to get back to the womb where we can feels safe. But that’s what happen when someone breaks your heart – they steal the very thing that makes you feel safe, whole, intact

Pinoy Business Names

1. Parlor in San Juan is named "Cut & Face".
2. Wholesaler of balut in Sto.Tomas, Batangas: "Starduck".
3. Fast food eatery in Nueva Ecija: "Violybee"
4. Internet cafe opened among squatters named "Cafe Pindot". (A neighbor followed suit and opened another named “CafĂ© Pisil”)
5. In Manila, there's a laundry named, "Summa Cum Laundry".
6. Pet shop in Ortigas: "Pussies and Bitches".
7. A pet shop in Kamuning: "Pakita Mo Pet Mo".
8. Bakery: "Bread Pit".
9. Bank in Alabang: "Alabank".
10. Restaurant in Pampanga named, "Mekeni Rogers".
11. Restaurant in Pasig: "Johnny's Fried Chicken: The 'Fried' of Marikina ".
12. A boxing gym: "Blow Jab".
13. A tombstone maker in Antipolo: "Lito Lapida".
14. A copy center in Sikatuna Village called "Pakopya ni Edgar".
15. A beerhouse in Cavite called, "Chickpoint”.
16. Laundromat in Sikatuna: " Star Wash: Attack of the Clothes".
17. Internet cafe in Taguig named, "n@kopi@".
18. Name of a kambingan, "Sa Goat Kita".
19. A salon somewhere, "Curl up and Dye".
20. A lugawan in Sta. Maria, Bulacan: "Gee Congee".
21. A water refilling station in Dapitan named "Wa-Thirst".
22. A store selling feeds for chickens: "Robocock".
23. Shoe repair in Marikina: "Dr. Shoe-Bago".
24. Shoe repair store along Commonwealth, "SHOEPERMAN: we will HEEL you, save your SOLE, and even DYE for you".
25. Petshop: "Petness First"
26. Flower shop: "Susan's Roses".
27. Taxicab: "Income Taxi".
28. A 2nd hand watch store: "2nd Time Around".
29. A squid stall in a wet market: "Pusit to the Limit".
30. A shrimp store: "Hipon Coming Back".
31. A gay lawyer's extension office: “Nota Republic ".
32. A ceiling installer: “Kisame Street ".
33. A car repair shop: "Bangga ka 'day?"
34. An aquatic pet store in Malolos: "Fish Be with You".
35. A fishball cart named, "Poke Poke".
36. A beauty salon: "Saudia Hairlines".
37. A bakery: "Anak Ng Tinapay".38. A resto along Mayon road in Manila: "May Lisa Eatery".
39. Laundry shop: "Wash Your Problem".
40. This mobile massage business name isn't funny, but their slogan is: "Asian Mobile Massage Service: Massage only, God is watching".
41. Ice cream parlor: "Dila Lang Ang Katapat".
42. Chicharon store: "Chicha Hut".
43. Neighborhood pizza store: "Pizza Hot".
44. A fishball cart near UST: "Eat My Balls".
45. A barbershop in Cagayan de Oro: "Pinoy Big Barber".
46. A Resto: "The Last Supper".
47. A goto resto: "Goto Ko Pa!"
48. A peanut vendor's cart with a funny name: "Mani ni Papa".
49. A gym in Malolos: “Gaymann Fitness Center ".
50. My brother's party needs business: "Balloon-Balloonan”.
51. A Chinese restaurant in Pasig: "Lah-Fang".
52. A store selling fresh chicken, owned by woman named Dina: "Dina Fresh Chicken".
53. An actual bait and tackle shop in U.S.: "The Master Bait er".
54. Panaderia: "Trimonay Bakeshop".
55. Salon: "Hair Dot Comb".

sssshhhhh!!!

it is rightly said that one can share any secret with a true friend. He may know your deepest fears and weaknesses and yet will never take advantage of you. However, keeping a friend's secrets to yourself and not telling the world about is what makes the bond grow strong and last forever. You need to develop a trust and mutual understanding before you start sharing secrets with each other. With friends, secret talks never seem to end and it can get really amusing to know what has been going on in your friend's mind.It is a general notion that only girls share secrets. But boys have their own secrets that they discuss with only closest of pals. The secret talks can range from crushes, relationships, talks regarding fights with parents, secret missions, hideouts and anything that is not supposed to be known to others! If you think secrets are limited to only teenagers, get your facts right! Secrets can be shared at any age and there is absolutely no such hard and fast rule that secrets are shared only among youngsters.Sharing secrets with a friend is not just fun, but it also helps to develop a lasting trust on one another. Sometimes, sharing secrets will tell you more about the person. You will come to know whether your friend is reliable and trustworthy and whether it is worth sharing your secrets with them. You can call it a test of friendship and if a person passes it, he / she is definitely worth being made a trustworthy friend.

something to think about!

A goal is not a goal unless you put it within a specific time frame. You have to set a specific period as to when this objective should be accomplished. Setting a time frame is useful in two ways. First, it helps you monitor your progress towards your goal. Second, having a deadline will keep you working towards your goal; people are known to be more motivated when working against a deadline. Without a time limit you will not have any sense of urgency to act and you will likely fail to attain your goals.

baduy but true!

What a girl needs most is love. What a guy needs most is respect. The most important thing for a girl is her heart. For a guy its his ego.

Give your man his own time and space. Let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self, and God. The relationship will grow old quickly if lagi kayong magkasama. Give him time to miss you and you’ll see how he will love you more. Wag ka panay text ng, “wer u na?”, ano u gawa? Aruuu! If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to be with you all the time, tell him you can’t respect a “puppy” for long.

Do things differently anytime. Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and new. Para naman may pag uusapan kayong bago pag magkasama na kayo ulit o nagka usap. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting baga?

Discover something you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning about it kahit konti. Hindi naman kinakailangan na makahiligan mo rin ang mga gusto nya pero hindi rin kailangan na kontrahin mo yun. If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a looooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny noh? Maybe, but its very powerful. Pag may takot sa Diyos ang boyfriend mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that before you part after a date, with hold hands and eyes closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me it’s effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Believe in “Magic” (magic ka dyan? Hehe..). Kahit di minsan practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things (dapat talaga ito!!!) for the one you love kahit magmukha ka ng timang. The memories will be fun to recall later in life. The corniest song o gift o letter ang laging kabog! At siyempre pa if d kayo mahilig magbigay ng flowers or special gifts eh kahiligan nyo na dahil wala ng sasaya pa sa feeling ng isang babae na binibigyan ng bulaklak or any symbolic jewelries (kahit mura lng) ng kaniyang mahal. O kng d niyo man makahiligan at nkokornihan talaga kayo kahit man lng once in a blue moon sa tinagal tagal ng relasyon niyo eh magawa nyo eto. Believe me it would be very much appreciated by your partners.

True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your boyfriend and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

It’s healthy to fight (oo naman). Doon nyo lang maaayos ang mga differences nyo at natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti.. It’s called test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is how often you make bati. Mas nakakatakot yung relasyong sobrang perfect at laging masaya.. One big fight and that’s it! And di ba mas kilig yung malambing na… “uy, bati na tayo…“. But don’t overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori (ouch). Choose the battles na papatulan mo. The little issues, palampasin na. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Daraan sa iba’t-ibang stages ang love especially pag matagal na kayo. Grow with it. Don’t expect him to be like nung una. ‘Coz like a student, di na ituturo sa grade 6 yung lessons na pang-grade 2. Change WILL happen… you both will change and your love WILL change too. It’s up to you na lang if the change will be for the better or for the worse. Life is about growth. Grow with it.

When break up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love just because it didn’t last. May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn’t mean di na ito totoo. Some good things are just never meant to last forever. Okay lang yon. Bless the parting and move on. (sino kaya natatamaan dito?) Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga “it’s when you hurt the worse that you love the MOST.” Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka na lang magmahal.

Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man and when to let him go. God will guide you kung anong dapat gawin sa kung anong sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng langit sa cellfone ngpuso mo to know His wisdom.

friends

"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies". - Aristotle


Perhaps the one relation that has survived the trials and tribulations of time and has still remained unconditional is friendship. A unique blend of affection, loyalty, love, respect, trust and loads of fun is perhaps what describes the true meaning of friendship between two individuals. Similar interests, mutual respect and strong attachment with each other are what friends share between each other. These are just the general traits of a friendship. To experience what is friendship, one must have true friends, who are indeed rare treasure.Different people have different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the trust in an individual that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship. People form definitions based on the kind of experiences they have had. This is one relation that has been nurtured since times immemorial. There are famous stories about friends in mythologies of different religions all over the world. They say a person who has found a faithful friend has found a priceless treasure.Psychologically speaking, friendship may be defined as "a dynamic, mutual relationship between two individuals. As children become friends, they negotiate boundaries within which both partners function". This helps them to function like healthy individuals in life as they learn to draw a line as and when needed in a relation. This greatly helps in the emotional development of an individual. However, any relation needs constant nurturing and development from all the people that are involved in one. Friendship cannot survive if one person makes all the effort to sustain it without any mutual recognition from others.Since friendship starts the moment a child starts socializing, the kind of friends that the child chooses should be taken care of till the time he / she learns to differentiate between right and wrong. Wrong peers or lack of socializing can lead to severe psychological traumas and disorders, finally leading to social maladjustment. The correct peer group is essential for the development of the personality of a child. Both positive and negative experiences refine the personality of the individual. Thus it is essential that you find friends who are compatible with you on an emotional and psychological basis.

one whole day with my honey....




2 saturdays ago, i spent the whole day with my honey, we went to his aunt house in cavite because it was the bday of his 2 cousins, we left their place at around 10 in the morning, his cousin picked us up together with his parents, his other cousins and pamangkin's, we went first to his aunt's house is paranaque then after that we went to his cousin's house to pick up the other kids, we arrived at his aunt's house in cavite around lunch time, but when we get there dinner pala yung party.... hehehehe!!!! so they prepared pa muna for the pary, we ate shawarma that was given by his iranian uncle, my honey and i helped in preparing the balloons....
unfortunately we have few pictures together puro solo nia... hehehehe

pano kaya?

may mga lalaking mahal nila ang isang tao at sinasabi nilang mahal nga nila ang taong yun pero paano ba talaga nila pinapakita ang pagmamahal na yun kung hindi sila showy?they don't write letters, give roses and chocolates, tell you romantic words, sing to you on the phone and other stuffs na nagpapakilig sa mga babae.kayo, sa palagay niyo, paano ba natin malalaman na ang boyfriend natin na hindi showy ay inlove pa rin satin?...

to hold or let go?

to hold or to let go?.... a long distance relationship!

would you hold because you love the person and he will not give you up also or just let go, because he has someone new, but that person told you that whatever she/he is doing, it's all just for fun and you are still the one....what would you choose then?

nabasa ko lang

i read this article about a month ago, and i would just like to share with you

once upon a time i read that you'll be happier with the man whom loves you more than with the man you love... a couple of months later, i can't say if that's true.i tried to be happy with the one who loves me and up till now, i'm still waiting for him to be the man i will love and it gets tiring... i find myself always disappointed with him.so am i happy? i'm not... admittedly it's my own fault, because i can't accept him for who he is. i guess that's the one big flaw with choosing the man who loves you more, rather than looking for the man you'll love. you'll never be satisfied with the former.and now, i find myself torn... should i stay with him, and push him to be the man i want or should i just accept him for who he is? or should i leave him, and pursue the man i love?

coffe break


in a brief conversation during coffee, a friend asked me, “what kind of man are you looking for?” i sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asked, “do you really want to konw?” reluctantly, he said “yes” then i began to expound.
“as a woman in this day and age, i am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that i can’t do for myself. i pay my own bills, i take care of my household without the help of any man or woman for that matter. i am in the position to ask, “what can you bring to the table?”
my friend looked at me. clearly he thought i was referring to money. i quickly corrected his thought and stated, “i am not referring to money. i need something more. “i need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life.” he sat back in his chair, folded his arms and asked me to explain, i said,
“i am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because i need conversations and mental stimulation. i don’t need a simple-minded man.”
“i am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because i don’t need to be unequally yoked… believers mixed with unbelivers is a recipe for disaster”.
“i need a man who is striving for perfection financially because i don’t need a financial burden.”
“i am looking for someone who i can respect in order to be submissive, i must respect him. i cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. i have no problem being submissive, he just have to be worthy.” god made woman to be a help mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.
when i finished, i looked at him. my friend sat there with a puzzled look on his face and he said, “you are asking a lot.”
i replied, “im worth a lot!.”

almost, but not quite.

the "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. others call it MU or mutual understanding. pseudo-relationships. pseudo-boyfriends.
flings, almost like a relationship, but not quite. it is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
pwedeng me verbal agreement, pwedeng wala. one or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. you just let your gestures do the talking for you. walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. hindi kayo mag-boyfriend.
pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.
this kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. it can happen after a break-up. you still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. and for reason that you alone know, ayaw niyo muna magkabalikan.
it can also happen before a relationship, pareho kayong nikikiramdam. possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
testing lang.
puwede ring hindi pwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo - usually the guy - may ka-relasyon na. kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."
this pseudo-relationship stage, for a time,can be fun. lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."
pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
so bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
iba't ibang dahilan. pwedeng for fun lang.
pwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala"
meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
for those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. it would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling.
aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din ako. no commitments involved. for the simplest reason that they couldn't commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren't ready to commit.
my rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."
ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. iyong merong nagtatanong kung kamusta araw ko. iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. iyong merong laging kasama. habang wala pa ang the real thing, pwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
but then i learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. and usually, in this kind of a set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.
una, you can't ask him to commit. since it's not really a relationship, you can't demand commitment from your partner. ano ba kayo? may k ka nga bamagpasundo ng hatinggabi? you will always be uncertain about your role in his life. you can't expect him to be always there with you. and if you feel jealous of other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself.
ano ka ba niya para magselos?
pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? you can't be sure if he feels the same way. baka nag-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya.
even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't. because you're not sure if he'll like it. baka mapahiya ka lang,
this stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship.
or if there is a relationship at all.
pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?
what if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't?
what if you remain faithful to him not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. when a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. wala kang pinanghahawakan.
kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." meron lang "you and me," hindi "us."
buti san kung pseudo pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. kaso, hindi eh. real pain. and usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyon. and you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.
an hirap, ano? you agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.
pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.
but if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. you can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.
when i was in college and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy, a friend told me, "sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka. magpakasaya ka. pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."
ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.
ihanda molang ang sarili mo sa consequence. dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. usually, hanggang doon lang siya…
almost, but not quite.

Monday, September 29, 2008

45 things a girl wants but wont ask for



1. touch her waist
2. actually talk to her
3. share secrets with her
4. give her your jacket
5. kiss her slowly

are you remembering this?

6. hug her
7. hold her hand
8. laugh with her
9. invite her somewhere
10. hang out with her and your friends together

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11. smile with her
12. take pictures with her
13. pull her into your lap
14. when she says she loves you more, deny it. fight back
15. when her friends say i love her more than you do, deny it, fight back and hug her tight so she can't get to her friends. it makes her feel loved.

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16. always hug her and say i love you whenever you see her
17. kiss her unexpectedly
18. hug her from behind around the waist
19. tell her she's beautiful
20. tell her the way you feel about her

one last thing you need to do to show her you actually mean it

21. open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman
22. tell her she's your everything - only if you mean it
23. if it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means "she doesn't want to talk about it - so just hug her
24, make her feel loved
25. kiss her infront of other girls you know!!!!

we might deny it but we actually like and kinda want you to tickle us

26. don't lie to her
27. don't cheat on her
28. take her anywhere whe wants
29. txt message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work or at school, and how much you miss her
30. be there for her when ever she needs you, & even when she doesn't need you, just be there so she'll know that she can always count on you

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31. hold her close when she's cold so she can hold you too
32. when you are alone hold her close and kiss her
33. kiss her on the cheek, it will give her a hint that you want to kiss her
34. when in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her headon your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly
35. don't ever tell her to leave jokingly or act like you're mad. if she's upset, comfort her

remember all these things when you are with her next

36. when people diss her, stand up for her
37. look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her
38. lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whispher to her as she rest her eyes and listens to you
39. when walking next to each other grab her hand
40. when you hug her hold her in your arms as long as possible

make sure she knows she's loved

41.call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams
42. comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears
43. take her for long walks at night
44. always remind her how much you love her
45. sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while sitting on heryou'll never know when she needs just a lil more love....

relationship 101: Do's and Dont's

"Ang mag-assume, TALO (kahit 2% pa yan)."
"Kung ayaw may DAHILAN, kung gusto may PARAAN."
"Wag masyado magpadala sa text."
"BACK OFF (as in back off!) sa mga IN A RELATIONSHIP, kahit saan anggulo mo tingnan, ikaw pa rin ang mali ."
"Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you."
"Hayaan mo siyang gawin yung gusto niyang gawin. Buhay niya yun, hindi mo maco-control. As long as alam niya yung limitations niya."
GOLDEN RULE: "Don't do unto HIM what you don't want HIM to do unto you."
"Take it slow... Steady lang..."
"Maniwala sa IT'S COMPLICATED na status. Hindi lang chenes yan."
"Learn to LET GO kung alam mong wala na talaga."
Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. Sometimes guys mistreat you because you allow them to... Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you...
"Keep your DIGNITY."
"If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
"Wag magselos sa siblings and relatives ng boyfriend/girlfirend mo."
"Ang QT (quality time), at least 5 hours lang per week."
"Don't revolve your life around him. Learn to be independent."
"Hindi dahilan ang TIME."
"Kung ayaw sayo ng kapatid, hayaan mo siya. Wala siyang magagawa kung mahal ka talaga niya."
"Wag magpakilala sa parents agad. It can affect your relationship."
"Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Kadalasan tama ito mga girls..."
"Be nice to your EX. Wag maging BITTER."
"If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you, as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. At some case this is applicable...
"Wag magpadala sa SITUATION. Baka overwhelmed ka lang."
"Wag maniwala sa BF, baka later on, sabihin niya "I LOVE YOU SISTERLY." - di ko toh gets ah!?
"Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Paminsan-minsan take off your helmet."
"When you meet anyone, remember it's a holy encounter. As you treat them you will treat yourself. As you think of them, you think of yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose yourself."
"Hindi balakid kung magkaiba ang RELIGION niyong dalawa."
"Kung kayang I-workout, I-WORKOUT!"
Kalokohan ang reason na "IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME."
"All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street."
"Learn to forgive para magkaroon ka ng peace of mind."
"Some can forgive but can't forget."
"If something bothers you, speak up!... mahirap kapag nagpapakiramdaman lang kayo."
"OPEN COMMUNICATION, TRUST AND HONESTY are the most important ingredients in a relationship."
"You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship pag hindi kasi, it can affect or even ruin your relationship."
"Ok lang na magselos, basta yung pakilig lang."
"Always have your own set of friends separate from his para may iba kang channels that is without him... diba?"
"Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes it for granted."
"Always make time for your family and friends."
"You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary."
"Always make time for yourself."
"Wala yun sa tagal ng relationship... nasa pagmamahal (haruuuuy...)."
"There's NO SUCH THING as MR. RIGHT. It's how you mold him to become rightfully for you."
"There's NO SUCH THING as COOL OFF/GRAY AREA. Kung white, white! Kung black, black! Walang GRAY AREA..."
"Always think a number of times before deciding on to something important."
"There's a possibility that a person can get attracted to another. It's human nature. It's not wrong. But that is why you're in a commitment, you discipline yourself. One may get attracted to numerous prospects and its ok. As long as, you don't nurse the feeling and do something about it. Borderline between cheating and faithfulness. Recognize reality that you already have the person that can give you more than what you get for the cheap thrill of attraction."
"You need to let go of the past to have a future...(ICE AGE 2)."
"Do not take anyone for granted."
"If what you see by the eye doesn't please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. Because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder."
"If you felt it, then it was true. Getting hurt doesn't always mean you suffered, it also means you loved sincerely. Don't frown because it's over... SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED."
"KARMA (whatever you do) will find its way."
"Everything will fall onto place."

what happened?!

hay naku, lumala na talaga ang gap ni gori at ni trisia... tsk!tsk!tsk! naging personal na ang issue, pati tuloy ang pagkamatay nung baby na-open na, what happened?! sana in time magka-ayos rin silang dalawa, like what my boyfriend said, mababaw lang ang issue.... na lumaki na, ang hirap kasi me mga ibang tao nang nadadamay sa issue..... di mo na alam san ka nga ba lulugar sa issue na ito, both merong point at both rin ay mali, sa sobrang badtrip ni gori umalis na sia sa sa paluwagan namin, kasi feeling nia naisahan at nagag*** sia ni trisia, babawiin na raw nia yung contributions nilang mag-asawa, oh well ganon talaga, tapos pati si ate grace kukunin na rin nia yung money nia by august, naku sino-sino na lang kaya kaming maiiwan? para tuloy gusto ko na rin kunin yung money ko, pro sabi ni jasper wag, mag-stick raw kami, wag kaming pumayag na kunin ni ate grace yung money nia, kung sa august pa nia kukunin, wag raw kaming pumayag, pro kung talagang kukunin na nia ibigay na ngayon na ring july, wag nang paabutin pa ng august.... hay naku, buti na lang tomorrow mag-uusap-usap kami para ma-finalize na lahat, tsk!tsk! ang gulo nila!!!!!

so be it


"so be it!..."

yan ang naging line ng friend ko na si kuya orly aka trisha last night sa meeting namin kina gori. i knew it, morning pa lang alam ko nang di magiging maganda ang turn out ng aming meeting regarding our "paluwagan, hulugan every 15 & 30, ipon" etc whatever you call it.... tsk!tsk! magkagalit na naman ulit tuloy yung dalawa, and i think this time mejo matagal silang mag-kakaayos dahil sensitive ang naging issue ng kanilang pag-aaway.... napaisip tuloy ako, why nga ba kami nag-paluwagan? dapat ata ndi na namin ito tinuloy kung magkakaroon lang ng misunderstanding among us.... what started as a simpleng ipon para merong money for the holidays, turned into world war 10 ni gori at ni trisha..... both parties have a point, si gori stick to the rules ang drama, kasi yun naman talaga ang napagkasunduan last january, unfair nga naman sa iba na nag-bayad ng penalties nila because of late payment, and to those na on time magbayad.... everyone agreed sa magiging penalty and parusa sa mga lalabag ika nga..... so kahit walang naging written policy among us, siempre kampante kami na lahat kami i-honor yun napagkasunduan after all we don't need a written policy, we are all friends and kahiyaan na lang siguro kung me lumabag hehehehe!!!!, while trisha's side naman, mejo short xia sa budget this past months sana maintindihan ng group yun na mejo hirap xia financially kaya ndi xia nakakapag-update sa payments nia, naiintindihan namin, pro siempre di nia rin maiaalis sa amin to get worried because habang di nia na-sesettle ung present debt nia with us lalong lalaki yung penalties nia, which we don't like to happen because xia rin mahihirapan, baka at the end of the year pag time na to get the ipon, wala na xiang makuha.... what started as a nice evening ended up with hurtful words and actions among two of my dear friends..... just this morning, trisha send me a txt message, he said na he would like to thank my boyfriend jasper kasi, he's the only person in the meeting that understood his side and even tried to defenfd him, hayyy feeling tuloy ni trishia we gang up on him,.... i don't know na kung ano pang sasabihin ko regarding this issue...."so be it!"......

100 Reasons why I LOVE YOU

I love the way you hold my hand
I love the way you squeeze it when you get excited
I love your sweet smile
I love the smell of your neck
I love the way you kiss
I love the way you walk
I love your eyes, nose, lips
I love the way you sooo love playing basketball
I love the way you always make me smile
I love the way you smile back
I love the way you hug me
I love the way you hug me real tight
I love the way you talk like a kid when were on the phone
I love the way you say iloveyou
I love the way you bring out the best in me
I love your shirts
I love your shoes (hihihi)
I love your messy hair
I love the way your breath smells
I love the mango juice (hihihi)
I love the way you talk about naruto
I love the way you sing
I love the way you fix your hair
I love the way you tease me
I love the way you kiss me on the forehead
I love the way you bite my hand (ewww!!!!)
I love the way that my decisions matter to you (and your are important to me too)
I love the way you love to eat shawarma with jolly frost
I love the way you’re a perfect gentleman
I love the way you talk to people
I love the way you let me take care of you
I love the hair at your back (hihihi)
I love kissing you everywhere
I love the funny bloopers (hihihihi)
I love how you are always understanding with me even when I don’t deserve it
I love the way you tell me stories about your life
I love the way you stay up late just to talk to me on the phone
I love the way you always make me sure that I’ll be home safe
I love the way you love your mama, papa, and jefferson and your baby brother dash!!!!
I love the way you drink lots of lots of milk
I love your electronic and technology savvy
I love your crazy voices, sounds and imitations
I love how you always make me laugh or smile even at times when I don’t want to
I love the way you joke around
I love the way that you make me go crazy
I love hanging out with you
I love staying up all night with you
I love your choice of music
I love watching movies with you (scary or not)
I love it when you tell me your problems
I love that you share your dreams with me
I love your wackiness
I love the way you make me feel about myself
I love your extreme patience with me even when I push it to the limit sometimes
I love how cute and adorable you can be
I love how you give the word perfect a new meaning
I love how I can be clumsy and foolish when im with you, yet know that your love for me will never diminish
I love how you laugh at my stupid jokes and corny phrases
I love how you accept me for who I am and don’t try to change me
I love how honest you are with me no matter what
I love that we share a lot interest
I love how you are a good listener
I love how spontaneous and exciting you can be
I love your sense of humor
I love your ability to take a joke
I love how you don’t try to control me
I love how comfortable you are around me
I love how you can be mature, but you still have a child inside of you
I love how creative you are
I love how you call me pet names
I love the way how you explain when I really don’t understand something
I love the way you walk
I love the way you talk
I love the way you kiss and touch me
I love your faithfulness
I love how I learn new amazing things about you everyday
I love how you make me blush
I love the way you laugh
I love the way you smell
I love how silly you are with dash
I love how you say sorry after we had a fight
I love the way your face glow whenever I have a surprise to you
I love how you always stand up for what you believe in, no matter who’s standing against you
I love how a bit dare-devil you are
I love how you never get mad
I love your thoughtfulness
I love the way you let me live my life freely without jealousy
I love the way your voice sounds over the phone
I love the way you choose to show your affection for me
I love the way you inspire me to be more than I am
I love the way you treat me
I love the way you take care of us
I love your confidence
I love your openness to try new things
I love that you are beautiful inside and out
I love how you love me unconditionally
I love how we have long walks together
I love that you are not perfect
I love how you complete me
I love you because you are you….