Wednesday, February 25, 2009

15 Simple, Inexpensive Ways to Care for Yourself


by Karly Randolph Pitman, on Thu Feb 19, 2009 3:52pm PST

It is a falsehood that self-care is extravagant and expensive. Many women neglect themselves due to this black and white thinking, believing only the wealthy can afford to take care of themselves. But self-care is a mindset; not a bank account --- a good thing in our current economy.

We all need to feel nurtured, loved and supported --- it creates meaning, depth and purpose in our daily lives, allowing us to be present to ourselves as well as to others. Too often, we seek these things in money and material goods, external symbols of care. But feeling rich has more to do with how you feel about yourself on the inside than about what you do or don't have on the outside. When you feel worthy and valuable, you treat yourself as worthy and valuable. Self-care, after all, is simply love in action.

Fortunately, we don't have to spend a lot of money (or money we don't have) to feel nurtured. In fact, true self-care is none of those things. Just as eating too much food makes you feel sick, excessive indulgence feels badly, too. Debt, overspending and a house filled with things you don't use, need, or appreciate drains the spirit. Self-care enriches it.

The trick to inexpensive self-care is using your creativity to meet your needs --- a tool I've used in cash crunches over the years. To get you thinking, here are 15 frugal ways to add self-care into your life:

1. Use the library.

The library is a self-care treasure trove. During a time in my life when a $10 pizza was a luxury, I used the library for much of my entertainment needs: I checked out armfuls of books, CDs, magazines, and videos for free. I didn't let my library's offerings stop me, either: I ordered books or videos that my library didn't have through interlibrary loan, for a mere $1.50. The best part was receiving the call that my interlibrary loan had arrived: Picking up the book that I was so eager to read was like a Christmas present.

2. Buy quality over quantity.

While I'm careful with how I spend my money, I'm likewise careful with what I spend my money on. I save for what I really want --- even if it takes me months or years to do so --- instead of buying a cheaper alternative that I can afford immediately. Buying what you want serves your spirit because it honors your need for beauty, quality, or choice. Too often, we buy junk, gadgets, knicknacks or things we don't need because we are surrounded by objects that don't speak to our truest hearts. So we search endlessly for it, parting with our money --- our life energy --- for things that only end up collecting dust, clutter our homes, or show up in the give away pile. When you give yourself permission to buy the $100 cashmere sweater instead of the $30 cotton one, you lose the deprived feeling that accompanies a habit of making do; settling for second best. That deprived feeling is often what leads to overspending in the first place. So my advice is don't settle. Buy the cashmere sweater. But do it mindfully: wait until you can pay cash, not credit. Likewise, reconsider how many sweaters you really need and wear. (My closet is spare, but I love and wear everything in it.) Swinging for the cashmere sweater may mean having four sweaters in your closet, instead of 10. In my experience, having one sweater that makes you swoon is preferable to ten that don't.

3. Learn how to do it yourself.

Do you love Chinese take-out, authentic Mexican, or gourmet pizza? With a recipe, basic lessons, or a tutorial from a friend, you can learn to make these yourself. Our family prides itself on cooking good food: we love to eat well. It makes us feel richly abundant on a daily basis. Likewise, you can learn decorating skills to transform your home, or how to give yourself a lavish mani/pedi. I've made my own jewelry, sewed clothes, pillows and curtains, and knitted scarves and shrugs. Learning a new skill has an extra side benefit: it feeds your self-esteem, as well as your spirit.

4. Make your own pampering products.

I make bath salts for friends and my own use. They take five minutes and cost pennies. I've also made my own face masks out of everyday kitchen ingredients ---- they are fantastic for my skin, and are a bargain when compared to organic skin care products.

5. Barter.

In today's consumer culture, we limit our creativity when we don't think of alternatives to buying. What about bartering for what you want, instead? I've swapped cooking for childcare; accounting for a cleaning service; a collage lesson for a jewelry making class. That sweater that is the wrong color on you? A friend might swap you for something in her closet that calls to you.

6. Ask around.

Are you looking for craft supplies? Put up a sign in a community bulletin board, like a friend of mine did: She received an entire bag of needles from a woman who no longer wanted them. Or try Freecycle, where you can use your neighbors to get (or give) things for free.

7. Give yourself the luxury of time.

When I'm feeling frazzled, what I most crave is time: time to take a long shower, paint my nails, or read a book. How can you give yourself 20 or 30 minutes a day, a sacred space to cultivate your relationship with yourself? We often think we don't have the time, but how much of our daily lives is spent buying, scouting for things, or running errands (to buy)? Cutting down your consumption may create the very pockets of time you need to feel whole, without buying the new outfit.

8. Cultivate low-cost entertainment.

There are a myriad of ways to entertain yourself, without cost. I meet girlfriends for walks, or at the coffeehouse for tea: a $2 investment. I exercise outside or do yoga in my bedroom --- I run, bike and walk, all free, aside from my gear. We make the most of our Netflix subscription, getting "fun" movies as well as documentaries, how-to videos, or other educational entertainment. Book clubs and game nights are other ways of adding inexpensive joy. Check your local paper: you may be amazed at the wealth of free entertainment in your area.

9. Rest.

Too often, we give ourselves shabby alternatives to what we really need. Think of the times that you eat when you're really tired, or you push yourself to go to the mall when you really desire an evening of quiet. Give yourself the rest that you desire: go to bed earlier, take a nap (there's nothing that feels richer in the middle of the day), or spend a few hours puttering around the house.

10. Use the power of a group.

My local art center has a woman's craft group that meets one evening a month for a girl's night out. A different woman directs the group each month, and offers instruction on everything from wire wrapping to batik dying. It's a fantastic way to learn a new hobby, with a minimal cost. I know other women who band together to tackle house projects, spending one Saturday month at a different girlfriend's house, painting or finishing another project that can be overwhelming for one person.

11. Change your expectations for entertaining.

I used to think that I couldn't have people over unless my house was immaculate, my meal, gourmet and of multiple courses, my table, perfectly presented. But, while there is a time and place for a beautifully set table and a chef-quality meal, there is much freedom in lowering our expectations for entertaining as a whole. There is nothing wrong with paper plates, or a simple dinner of soup and salad. After all, having friends over for dinner is about enjoying their company, not impressing them with your domestic skills. Some of the best times I've spent with friends have been impromptu get togethers: the last minute nature of the meal means I don't fret over the food, but focus on the company.

12. Embrace potlucks.

We all crave variety, a richness of experience. When we have extra cash, it's easy to rely on money to meet this need: going out to eat because we're tired of our own cooking. Enjoy your friends' cooking instead. Host potluck parties: it's always fun to try new foods, and you get the rich feel of eating out without the rich expense. Potlucks also create a feeling of community, the connection that comes with sharing a meal. This interconnectedness with others is especially necessary when we're feeling afraid, anxious about our finances.

13. Share your wish list with friends and family.

Ask for what you need. After I had my baby and carried an extra 20 pounds, I lamented my lack of wardrobe options to a friend. She gave me a pair of her jeans that she was about to give away, and I wore them for many months. They were a welcome shift from my sweats, and I didn't have to fret about "wasting" money on something I wouldn't be using long-term. I have another friend who is a thrift store and garage sale hound. I'll mention my wishlist to her --- a laundry basket; art supplies; something for my kitchen --- and she often surprises me by finding the very thing I need, for pennies. If my birthday is coming up, and there's something I really desire, I let my family know: they're usually grateful for the guidance.

14. Host swaps with friends.

Ever had a "New to You" swap? Everyone brings things they no longer use, need or like --- this could be anything from clothing to household decor --- and you "shop" your friends' wares. This gives you the rich feeling of having something "new," without having to spend money: everyone leaves feeling happy.

15. Give yourself an allowance.

There is something very empowering about having your "own" money. If you have a partner or spouse, tensions can arise over different expectations about spending vs. saving money. An allowance gives each person freedom to spend a small sum of money however they choose. Even if it's just $10 a month, I've found that giving myself a regular treat tames any feelings of lack or deprivation, particularly if I'm in a savings or pay-off-debt mode. Just knowing that I have a bit of money each month to spend as I choose quells those cravings to spend.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

something to share

To My Friends Who Are.......... .SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.
But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it.
Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it.
So take your time and choose the best.

To My Friends Who Are............ NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's 'perfect person.'
It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

To My Friends Who Are............ PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say 'I love you' if you don't care. Never talk about feelings if they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in the eye when all you do is lie.
The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...

To My Friends Who Are........... .MARRIED
Love is not about 'it's your fault', but 'I'm sorry.'
Not 'where are you', but 'I'm right here.'
Not 'how could you', but 'I understand.'
Not 'I wish you were', but 'I'm thankful you are.'

To My Friends Who Are............ ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

To My Friends Who Are............ HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deep as you allow them to go.
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

To My Friends Who Are............ NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.

To My Friends Who Are........... .POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

To My Friends Who Are............ AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.

To My Friends Who Are............ STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted years on someone who wasn't worth it.
If he isn't worth it now ,
he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 years from now . Let go.....

TO ALL MY FRIENDS.......
My wish for you is a man/woman whose love is honest, strong, mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective, encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.


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100 Things you should do in your life

1. kiss a movie star

2. swim with a dolphin

3. take the next taxi to the airport and catch the next plane to anywhere

4. run a marathon

5. love your body

6. travel from coast to coast across Philippines

7. own a tailored made dress

8. plant a tree

9. do something you fear

10. do a stand-up routine at a comedy club

11. bungee jump

12. eat something you've caught

13. skydive

14. run with the bulls in Pamplona

15. learn to tango

16. make fire without matches

17. teach someone to read

18. watch a lunar eclipse

19. have your portrait painted

20. win a premiership

21. brew your own beer

22. go to the opening night of the ballet

23. buy cowboy boots in Nashville

24. be extra in a film

25. becaome the next internet phenomenon

26. walk the red carpet at an awards night

27. grow a mustache

28. be able to take compliments

29. shower under a waterfall

30. fall inlove in Paris

31. break up in Rome

32. sit for a day in the gallery at Parliament House

33. go to the film festival in Cannes

34. spend a night in a haunted house

35. write a song

36. read a book in one sitting

37. go to the World Cup final

38. visit Gallipoli

39. have a white Christmas in Lappland

40. grow your hair long

41. hug a stranger everyday for a week

42. go white-water rafting

43. dance in MRT Guadalupe Station

44. score a hole in one

45. talk to a stranger on the bus

46. ride a motorbike on the open road

47. learn to juggle

48. collect something pointless

49. own a convertible

50. lay air guitar on the steps of National Post Office

51. learn to fly a helicopter

52. yodel on a Swiss mountain

53. drive the Monaco GP circuit on a Vespa

54. see all of Billy Wilder's films

55. create a cult website and sell it for millions

56. join a dig for dinousaur bones

57. see the Wallabies play England at Twickenham

58. ride the biggest roller-coaster in the world

59. see a killer whalein the wild

60. coach a kid's sports team

61. memorise a poem

62. become someone's nemesis

63. shoot a short film

64. start your own business

65. visit Stonehenge and recreate the Stonehenge scene from Spinal Tap

66. buy a share in a racehorse

67. walk the Kokoda Track

68. get a tatto

69. learn CPR

70. it courtside at a Laker's game

71. play lead guitar in a band

72. meet someone with your own name

73. shape your own surf board

74. gallop a horseon a deserted beach

75. play petanque in Marseille

76. work in a soup kitchen on Christmas Day

77. have a star named after you

78. drive along route 66

79. experience weigthlessness

80. live overseas

81. run up the rocky steps at the Philapdelphia Museum of Art

82. watch Bora Juniors play River Plate at La Bonbonera

83. drink tequilla in Mexico

84. create a world record

85. invent the next must-have Christmas Toy

86. be a contestant on a game show

87. learn the piano accordion but vow never to play it

88. go on a safari

89. become your team's mascot

90. enter the Archibald Prize

91. pay it forward

92. milk a cow

93. become a carbon neutral

94. get your dream job

95. fly in a hot air balloon acroos the desert

96. own an original work of art

97. shout the bar

98. dive with sharks

99. grow your own vegetables

100. design your own cocktail


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Sunday, February 22, 2009

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sick with a flu

it's been 2 days since i got this flu, and until now i have it.... :( i thought i was going to be well after drinking medicine last nigh, but nope.... im still sick.... huhuhu!

i can't afford to be absent again tomorrow my boss might think i have a monday sickness because last week i was absent at work....

maybe because the weather is always changing this past few days....

oh well i hope i get well soon....

Twinkies and Rootbeer

Be Blessed!

Twinkies and Root Beer

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with Twinkies and a six-pack of Root Beer and he started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an elderly man. The man was sitting in the park just feeding some pigeons.

The boy sat down next to him and opened his suitcase. He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the man looked hungry, so he offered him a Twinkie.

The man gratefully accepted it and smiled at boy. His smile was so pleasant that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered him a root beer.
Again, the man smiled at him. The boy was delighted! They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word.

As it grew dark, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave, but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the man, and gave him a hug. The man gave him his biggest smile ever.

When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later, his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you so happy?

"He replied, "I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? God's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!"

Meanwhile, the elderly man, also radiant with joy, returned to his home. His son was stunned by the look of peace on his face and he asked," Dad, what did you do today that made you so happy?"

He replied, "I ate Twinkies in the park with God." However, before his son responded, he added," You know, he's much younger than I expected."

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Embrace all equally!

Send this to people who have touched your life in a special way. Let them know how important they are. Have lunch with God!

And .......Thanks for touching my life!

Friday, February 20, 2009

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me and my honey :)


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Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Kisses unleash chemicals that ease stress levels

By RANDOLPH E. SCHMID,
AP Science Writer AP - Saturday, February 14


CHICAGO - "Chemistry look what you've done to me," Donna Summer crooned in Science of Love, and so, it seems, she was right. Just in time for Valentine's Day, a panel of scientists examined the mystery of what happens when hearts throb and lips lock. Kissing, it turns out, unleashes chemicals that ease stress hormones in both sexes and encourage bonding in men, though not so much in women.

Chemicals in the saliva may be a way to assess a mate, Wendy Hill, dean of the faculty and a professor of neuroscience at Lafayette College, told a meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science on Friday.
In an experiment, Hill explained, pairs of heterosexual college students who kissed for 15 minutes while listening to music experienced significant changes in their levels of the chemicals oxytocin, which affects pair bonding, and cortisol, which is associated with stress. Their blood and saliva levels of the chemicals were compared before and after the kiss.
Both men and women had a decline in cortisol after smooching, an indication their stress levels declined.
For men, oxytocin levels increased, indicating more interest in bonding, while oxytocin levels went down in women. "This was a surprise," Hill said.

In a test group that merely held hands, chemical changes were similar, but much less pronounced, she said.
The experiment was conducted in a student health center, Hill noted. She plans a repeat "in a more romantic setting."

Hill spoke at the session on the Science of Kissing, along with Helen Fisher of Rutgers University and Donald Lateiner of Ohio Wesleyan University.

Fisher noted that more than 90 percent of human societies practice kissing, which she believes has three components _ the sex drive, romantic love and attachment.

The sex drive pushes individuals to assess a variety of partners, then romantic love causes them to focus on an individual, she said. Attachment then allows them to tolerate this person long enough to raise a child.


Men tend to think of kissing as a prelude to copulation, Fisher said. She noted that men prefer "sloppy" kisses, in which chemicals including testosterone can be passed on to the women in saliva. Testosterone increases the sex drive in both males and females.

"When you kiss an enormous part of your brain becomes active," she added. Romantic love can last a long time, "if you kiss the right person."
Lateiner, a classical scholar, observed that kissing appears infrequently in Greek and Roman art, but was widely practiced, despite the spread of skin disease at that time by facial kissing. And there was a potential for social faux pas by kissing the wrong person at the wrong time.
Overall, the science of kissing _ philematology _ is under-researcherd, Hill concluded.

Monday, February 16, 2009

hello again

it's been 2 days since my last entry, i was quite busy over the weekend. so how's your valentine's day my fellow bloggers?! i hope it was sweet and memorable. mine was simple, he gave me chocolate and a heart shape balloon.... :)
nothing fancy and expensive... :)

Friday, February 13, 2009


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happy hearts day

in a just a couple of hours, we are going to celebrate valentine's day.... bigayan na naman ng mga roses, cards, chocolates, bears.... etc... last year i received a bouque of roses, a cake and a small teddy bear with a heart, this year i don't know if i'll ever receive a gift...



why do we celebrate valentine's day ba?! para ba masabing meron akong girlfriend/boyfriend, uy ang sweet naman nung guy!... etc....
dapat meron ding lonely hearts day! :) para fair dun sa mga walang ka-valentine's diba! hehehehehe....

but seriously, spending valentine's together with your significant other is sweet and nakakakilig, and a wonderful experience, this special day happens only once a year, lahat sweet and thoughtful,.... yun nga lang after valentine's day back to our old selves na tayo.... hehehehe
kaya dapat we should not focus on the material things that we could give our honey, baby, sweetheart, darling, babe... whatever is your tawagan, what's important is yung relationship ninyong dalawa, how you show your love to your partner. those stuffs added bonus na lang yun, ang mahalag how you both love each other!.


for me everyday is valentine's day! mapa-rainy or sunny season, im always in love with LOVE!
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movies to watch

Here are some of the movies that i will be watching soon, OMG i can't wait!.... :)

Has Ruffa found a new love?


Since she broke up with Yilmaz Bektas, Ruffa Gutierrez hasn’t been seen (that is, caught on camera) with a “most probable” date — until three weeks ago, that is.

According to Funfare’s Agent Olca, Ruffa was introduced by a mutual friend to a dashing 6’2" Polish-Persian-American named John Faizad who got so smitten with Ruffa that he followed her to L.A. John, 30, is said to be working in an entertainment- consulting firm. Like Ruffa, he just got out of a seven-year “committed” relationship and is, well, “searching.” During a dinner with friends at Sky Car on Sunset Boulevard in L.A., John was “over-protective” toward Ruffa.
But in an interview with Funfare yesterday for her and Ai-Ai delas Alas’ new daily show on ABS-CBN, Ruffa & Ai (which premieres on Monday, Feb. 16, 10:15 a.m., Ruffa insisted that she is “loveless” (while the divorce case between her and Yilmaz is pending).
“I have no time for love,” she said. “I’m busy. Monday to Friday, I go ‘live’ for Ruffa & Ai. Evenings, also Monday to Friday, I’m seen on I Love Betty La Fea and on Sundays I’m on The Buzz. I devote my free days to my daughters (Lorin and Venice) who I sometimes bring with me to the set.”

Like Ruffa, Ai-Ai has gotten used to spending Valentine’s Day alone.

“I’ve been Valentine-less for seven years now,” admitted Ai-Ai. “Okay lang because every Valentine’s Day I always have a show,” reiterating that, since July last year, “I have been celibate. Honest, cross my heart!”

On Ruffa & Ai, the two “loveless” damsels will surely jibe beautifully. Twenty years ago when they were new in the business, Ai-Ai played yaya to Ruffa and fellow Regal Babies Carmina Villarroel and Aiko Melendez in the Regal-produced TV show 13, 14, 15 on IBC 13.

“I was their yaya even off-screen,” said Ai-Ai. “Ruffa & Ai is Ruffa and my first project together in 20 years.”

Sheena arrives minus luggage

Even if she arrived last Wednesday afternoon minus several pieces of luggage, Sheena Easton showed up at an exclusive interview with Funfare at the Heat Cafe of EDSA Shangri-La (where she and her entourage are billeted) with a big smile and a warm hug for this writer. She was cool and unruffled where other people would have lost their temper in a similar situation.

“I don’t know where they are,” said Sheena, referring to her luggage which contained her clothes and the musical instruments needed for her For Your Love Only concert last night at the

Araneta Coliseum, lost in transit between her flights from Las Vegas to Hawaii to Manila. “So the first thing I did this afternoon was go shopping for clothes at a nearby store.”

Danee Samonte (Steve O’Neal) to the rescue. In a jiffy, Danee was able to negotiate with a local back-up band for Sheena. Hopefully, last night’s show went well as Sheena promised “a marvelous” time in this her first visit to Manila.

For sure, Sheena (who’s turning 50 this year) sang her hits, including the immortal For Your Eyes Only, the theme song of the James Bond movie.

In an earlier exclusive phone interview with Funfare, Sheena said that the best lesson that she has learned in her 25 years in the business is not to take anything or anybody for granted.

Asked which of her songs is her favorite, she gave the same answer that all singers do — none.

“It sounds like a cliché but all my songs are like my children. I love them all.”

But of course, the one song that we’d rather remember her for is, yes, For Your Eyes Only which has perhaps unwittingly become her signature song.

By the way, let’s hope that by this time, even if late, Sheena and company have already retrieved their lost luggage.

(E-mail reactions at rickylo@philstar.net.ph or at entphilstar@yahoo.com) - FUNFARE By Ricardo F. Lo (Philstar News Service, www.philstar.com)

Starbucks to begin selling instant coffee

By LAUREN SHEPHERD,
AP Business Writer AP - Friday, February 13

NEW YORK - Starbucks Corp. said Thursday it will unveil a new instant coffee as part of its attempt to turn around sluggish sales and shed its reputation for pricey lattes.

The company has been working on the product for more than 20 years and has a patent pending on the technology that will allow it to "absolutely replicate the taste of Starbucks coffee in an instant form," spokesman Vivek Varma said in an e-mail to employees.

Varma said Starbucks will offer details of the new instant coffee, reportedly called Via, beginning next week. Samples will be arriving in stores on Wednesday, he said.

The company did not say when it will begin selling the coffee in its stores.

Chief Executive Howard Schultz is expected to formally announce the product on Tuesday in New York.

Starbucks has been looking to reposition itself away from its reputation as the purveyor of $4 fancy coffee drinks. It reported a big drop in U.S. same-store sales _ or sales at stores open at least a year _ in its fiscal first quarter at the end of January.

Earlier this week, Starbucks said it will begin offering value meal-like "breakfast pairings" for $3.95 to appeal to cost-conscious customers.


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Side A

I saw this post in the internet about one of my favorite band here in manila, The Side A, and i would like to share it with you my fellow bloggers.... :)

In the 90s, everyone wanted to fall in love with Side A’s music playing in the background. Who can forget how “Forevermore” served as the soundtrack to countless marital unions, or how “Until Then” mirrored just how legions of lovelorn folks felt? Side A was the voice through which Pinoy romantics could hear themselves, their melodies the sweet salve to their own strongly-held sentiments.


During Side A’s heyday in the mid-90s, the band received a number of music awards, among them “Song of the Year” at the 1995 Awit Awards for “Forevermore” and Best Ballad Recording and Best Performance by a Group at the 1993 Awit Awards for “So Many Questions”. Side A has sold over a million albums in total, their records reaching the platinum mark many times over.

Timeless hits like “Will I Ever”, “Hold On”, “All I Need”, “So Many Questions”, and “Tell Me” bear those passionate lyrics and gently cresting melodies that have become the trademark of the band, making them one of the most loved groups in OPM.


No wonder Side A was greatly missed when they took a long hiatus from the recording studio. They’ve kept up appearances in bars here and abroad, consistently putting on great shows, but fans have missed the pleading romanticism that a new original Side A tune invariably awakens in its listeners.

Fall Out Boy LIVE in Manila

Tonight is the concert of the famous band, Fall Out Boy at the Araneta Colesium, it's just sad that i won't be able to watch the show.... :(

Egypt unveils ancient mummy, part of new discovery

By KATARINA KRATOVAC,
Associated Press Writer AP - Thursday, February 12


SAQQARA, Egypt - Illuminated only by torches and camera lights, Egyptian laborers used crowbars and picks Wednesday to lift the lid off a 2,600-year-old limestone sarcophagus, exposing _ for the first time since it was sealed in antiquity _ a perfectly preserved mummy.

The mummy, wrapped in dark-stained canvas, is part of Egypt's latest archaeological discovery of a burial chamber 36 feet (11 meters) below ground at the ancient necropolis of Saqqara. The find, made three weeks ago, was publicly announced Monday and shown to reporters for the first time Wednesday.

Egypt's archaeology chief Zahi Hawass has dubbed it a "storeroom for mummies," because it houses eight wooden and limestone sarcophagi as well as at least two dozen mummies.

Hawass led a group of international media Wednesday into the burial chamber, supervising as one person at a time was lowered into the shaft, holding on to a rope-pulled winch turned by workers above ground.

"It's moments like these, seeing something for the first time, that hold all the passion of archaeology," Hawass said after the mummy was unveiled.

The find dates back to 640 B.C., or the 26th Dynasty _ Egypt's last independent kingdom before a succession of foreign conquerors.

Hawass said the discovery was important because it shows much of the sprawling site at Saqqara, about 12 miles (20 kilometers) south of Cairo, has yet to be unearthed. Rulers of ancient Memphis, the capital of Egypt's Old Kingdom, were buried at Saqqara.

Inside the chamber, 22 mummies lay covered only by sand in four niches dug into the chamber's walls. Most were badly decomposed, showing only skulls and parts of skeletons, with decayed mummy wrappings. The sarcophagi were placed throughout the room.

A dog's mummy _ possibly of a pet _ was also found along with mummies of children, prompting speculation the chamber holds the remains of a large family, with the richer, more prominent members, buried in the sarcophagi.

"Only the rich could afford to have sarcophagi made of limestone from Thebes," said Hawass. Thebes is an ancient city on the west bank of the Nile, hundreds of miles to the south in what is today's Luxor. "The owner of the dog could have asked that his faithful companion be mummified and accompany him into the afterlife."

Hawass said he believes the mummy in the limestone sarcophagus belonged to a nobleman, but so far the mummies' identities remain a mystery.

The storeroom was found next to an even older cemetery dating to the 4,300-year-old 6th Dynasty of the Old Kingdom, a few hundred yards (meters) away from Saqqara's two most prominent pyramids _ the famous Step Pyramid of King Djoser and that of Unas, the last king of the 5th Dynasty.

The find reflected the fact that the area was used for burials in both the Old Kingdom and 2,000 years later when these mummies were buried.

The lid of the limestone sarcophagus opened Wednesday had been broken in antiquity _ likely by workers carrying it down into the chamber _ and resealed with mortar, Hawass said, tracing the crack. Hawass added that he plans to scan the mummy soon, a complicated process that requires the mummy to be removed from the tomb. He believes there could be gold amulets inside meant to "help the deceased in the afterlife," a common practice in pharaonic times.

Also Wednesday, Hawass opened another sarcophagus in the storeroom, a wooden coffin with an inscription in hieroglyphics on the lid that exposed another mummy, but stopped short of opening a third, also a wooden one, because of its poor condition. All eight sarcophagi in the storeroom are believed to hold mummies, said Abdel Hakim Karar, chief archaeologist of Saqqara but so far only three were opened. The first sarcophagi was opened Monday.

Excavations at Saqqara have been going on for 150 years, uncovering a necropolis of pyramids and tombs dating mostly from the Old Kingdom but also tombs from as recently as the Roman era.

In November, Hawass announced the discovery of a 4,300 year-old pyramid at Saqqara _ the 118th in Egypt, and the 12th to be found at this site. In December, two new tombs were found near the current mummies' discovery.

According to Hawass, only 30 percent of Egypt's monuments have been uncovered, with the rest still under the sand.






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Thursday, February 12, 2009

GCASH and Friendster tie up to provide Online Money Transfer


You may now send GCASH through your FRIENDSTER account! This newest feature expands the online money transfer service by making it available in a social network website accessible to its millions of members.


It's fast and easy! Simply log-in to your account, view your friends profile you want to send money to and click on the SEND GCASH button. You may also send to other Globe or TM Subscribers who are not part of your Friends List yet!


Try it now and tell your friends about it!




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break it to me gently....

Did you think that your smile
Could hide what's on your mind?
No matter how I tried
I just couldn't be so blind
We've been close but people grow,
And they sometimes grow apart
There's just one thing I ask you
If you've had a change of heart…
Break it to me gently,
If ya have to, then tell me lies
Break it to me gently,
At least leave me with my pride
Try to spare my feelings
If the feelings have to die
Break it to me gently,
If you have to say goodbye
I'm not ashamed to admit
I really hurt inside
After all these are my feelings,
Why should I make them hide?
But I won't hold you back,
There'll be no pulling on your sleeve
Just let me down easy,
And go softly when you leave…
Break it to me gently,
If ya have to, then tell me lies
Break it to me gently,
At least leave me with my pride
Try to spare my feelings
If the feelings have to die
Break it to me gently,
If you have to say goodbye
You always knew that you had my heart
It's still yours, if you wanna take it
But when you go, as I know you must,
Be gentle with your breaking
Break it to me gently,
If ya have to, then tell me lies
Break it to me gently,
At least leave me with my pride
Try to spare my feelings
If the feelings have to die
Break it to me gently,
If you have to say goodbye
Break it to me gently,
If you have to say goodbye,
Goodbye, goodbye...

There's No Easy Way to Break Somebody's Heart

I held her close to me Coz I know she breaks so easily
And then I told her
Though I knew no matter how I tried to console her
Then she'd do the best she could
But there are times the best is no damn good
And no matter how you try to be kind
There's always still a part of you you'll leave behind
When they fall apart
There's no easy way to break somebody's heart.
I lied and told her she'll be fine
Though we both knew it was just a lie
I had to do it
Coz I had said anything to help me get through it.
And she reached out for my hand
And her simple touch was more than I could stand
And I had to turn away coz I knew
All the hurt that she was feeling, I was feeling too
When they fall apart
There's no easy way to break somebody's heart.
She could've gotten angry
And made me feel like a guilty child
But I realized that never was her style
I wanted her to hurt me
And not treat me like a friend
I wanted her to say "there'd be someday
I'd come crawling on my knees to ask her back again"
But she acted like a lady till the end
Oh, what a lady!
I thought that she'd break down
But she smiled at me and never made a sound
And I guess she understood in her way
Coz her silence told me everything she could not say
When they fall apart
There's easy way to break
There's just no easy way
There's no easy way to break somebody's heart...

Hundreds of whales rescued in Philippines


BALANGA, Philippines (AFP) - - Fishermen and volunteers in the Philippines managed to rescue more than 200 beached whales on Tuesday by guiding them back into deep water, officials said.

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Residents of seaside towns west of Manila raised the alarm early in the day when they saw a large pod of melon-headed whales in shallow water.

Three of the whales were later found dead and authorities feared others would die unless they could be guided into deeper water.

The head of the Bureau of Fisheries and Aquatic Resources Malcolm Sarmiento initially said on local radio and television the stranded mammals were dolphins, but experts told AFP they were in fact melon-headed whales.

Mariel Flores, a veterinarian, said melon-headed whales were "easily mistaken for dolphins because of their size and their teeth, which resemble those of dolphins."

Government marine biologist Rizza Salinas said the mammals, which travel in pods of 100 or more, may have been disorientated by damage to their hearing caused by illegal dynamite fishing in the area.

Another theory was that they reacted to a major underwater earthquake.

Authorities said they had managed to guide most of the stranded mammals back into deeper water and away from the shore.

The whales were said late Tuesday to be heading back into open water, although one was taken to a nearby marine park for observation by veterinarians.

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Wednesday, February 11, 2009




Your Love Life is Like Pretty Woman



"I want the fairy tale"



You believe that love is truly blind, unpredictable, and surprising. Two very different people can easily find true love.

At least, that is how it will happen when you marry a gorgeous billionaire someday ;-)



Your love style: Sensual and flirty



Your Hollywood Ending Will Be: Surprisingly happy

CMAQUEST: An Infotainment and Magazine Blog: Urban Legends: The Roommate's Death

CMAQUEST: An Infotainment and Magazine Blog: Urban Legends: The Roommate's Death

CMAQUEST: An Infotainment and Magazine Blog: Urban Legends: The Boyfriend's Death#links

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Ang Pinakabawal na Pagmamahalan!

Falling in love: Debunking the Myths that are Driving you Crazy - Bo Sanchez

Just like to share, this is inspiring especially this love month...

This article isn't for teenagers only.

Falling in love happens to the young and the not-so-young. (Did you see 42-year-old Tom Cruise jump up and down Oprah's couch because of Katie?)
It happens to everyone. Fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated, holy, not so holy, dark, white, yellow, green... it doesn't really matter.
All of us fall in love.
And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy.
My goal is to debunk these myths and convince you not to believe in them.
Let's begin...

MYTH 1: LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL

Let me qualify.
This is such a tricky myth. Because love ----- as defined by the Bible ------ will conquer all. But love ------ as defined by glazed-eyed lovers ----- will not.

If you believe in this myth, you might do the following:

*You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.

Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer space as your boyfriend. Your best friends are telling you to get rid of him. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle. Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to lace his drink with poison.

But you won't --------- because you're in love. That's why there are songs entitled, "you and me against the world"

Your bestbuds comment, 'but he's been jobless for the past three years!" And you say, "He's free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office. '(in other words, he's undisciplined, lazy bum.)
Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!' and you say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert)
Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs, He's got needle marks all over his arm. And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'

*You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will change him.

The wedding doesn't transform anyone.
Even if three Popes officiate the wedding.
The person you'll march with into the church will be the same person you'll march with out of the church. He doesn't change one bit.
In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.
If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish after the wedding. If he was hypercritical before he got married, he'll even be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.

Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment and a minimum level of compatibility.
Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission in life. I hear people say, 'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same letter J. My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July."
Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

MYTH 2: WHEN IT"S TRUE LOVE YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

I'm sure you've had this experience before.
You are in a crowded room. You're surrounded by boring, noisy chatter when, suddenly, this gorgeous guy enters the door.
Your eyes meet.
Instantly, time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt. Except for this attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.
One week later, he's your boyfriend.
A few weeks later, you discover that your boyfriend's a pathological liar, buried in credit card debt, borrows money from all his girlfriends (you're his eight in six months).
Your mind says, 'Dump him'
Your heart says, 'But it was love at first sight!'
Here are the consequences ...

You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to the dark side of the relationship.
Six out of seven days, you're fighting with your boyfriend.
But you can't give him up because you met each other in such a magical moment. Your car keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met, you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ......How can you not be meant for each other?

You become a love-at-first- sight junkie that you could miss out on the 'real thing'.
One intelligent woman told me, 'Bo, there's this guy who's courting me. He's okay. He's kind, he's responsible, and he has a good job.......'
"I could hear a 'but' coming," I said.
'but there are no sparks!" she bit her lip.
"No violin music playing in the background huh"
"none. When I see him, the background music I hear is lululalu-lalulalula lei..."
"listen. You don't need a magical first moment to meet our potential husband. The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, ability for commitment, compatible mission and values..."
I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched down the aisle, she whispered to me, "Do you hear the violin music, Bo? It's loud and clear."
It doesn't have to be love at first sight.
In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends who've known each other for years before they realize that they're good marriage material.
What is love at first sight?
Many times, it's lust at first sight. Or infatuation at first sight.
Don't give it too much weight.
Here's the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but true love takes a lifetime.

MYTH 3 : IF IT IS TRUE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL THIS WAY FOR EACH OTHER FOREVER

No, you won't. Here are the consequences for believing this myth :

You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is over and whether you really loved one another in the first place.
Imagine the night of your honeymoon.
Your new bride is sleeping. The cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. You gaze at her lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes. Her beautiful nose, her parted red lips.
And all of a sudden, she snores.
"Ngggggggooork"
How do you react? Because it's your honeymoon, you say, 'How cute.'
Six months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping. And the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze.
And you hear her snore.
"Ngggggoork. "
What do you say?
"Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!'
What has happened? The feelings have gone. Let me say this: 'That's normal. It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean your love is gone so don't panic!
You can make a decision to love the snoring boat.

You start blaming your partner for the loss of love
This is nutty.
But many people do it: when we don't feel in love, we think it's the fault of the other person. And so we fight him.
Again, we fall out of love because we're human beings.
It's nobody's fault.
The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins .
Let me explain.
This is the most important point I'm going to make. (I got this from Scott Peck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)

Falling in love isn't love
Here's why. When you fall in love.....
a. No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.
b. No effort is required. Falling in love is like.... Well, falling.
c. No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by the love bug.

On the other hand, true love requires all three: Decision, effort and lots of hard work. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.
Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love.
When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting marriage.

MYTH 4: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY

Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want the same satisfaction to last. No it won't.
Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship because your partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.
Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them . There are just some things your husband can't give you: you're self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are things you have to work on your own.
I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their marriage. In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves.
I've met lots of people who think they're bored with their marriages. And they complain to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ---- when in truth, they're really bored with life.
Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche, your calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.

MYTH 5 : IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON"T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE

If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to someone else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.
One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I met this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her hair is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at work."
Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy marriage. But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery.
Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and say, 'Home, boy, Home!' and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if you feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the other woman, it grows. But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural death.

-- Kerygma (June 2006)

HAPPY VALENTINES TO ALL!!!

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Tuesday, February 10, 2009


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How to Pick Up Men - wikiHow

How to Pick Up Men - wikiHow

Have you watched them sleep?


HARDEST THINGS IN LOVE:

1. flashing your smile to someone u don’t want to see.
2. bringing back the feeling u’ve learned to forget.
3. showing that u care.
4. finding a way to mend a broken heart.
5. learning that u’ve been used by someone u truly love.
6. saying "i love you" when you mean it and when you don’t.
7. letting go of a person u’ve just learned to love.
8. realizing that u love somebody u’ve just taken for
granted.
9. realizing that u love the person u’ve just broken up with
10. waiting for promises you know she or he’ll never keep.
11. saying ur love for someone who loves somebody else.
12. reminiscing the good times u shared together.
13. shielding ur heart to love somebody.
14. trying to hide what u really feel.
15. having a commitment w/ someone that u k now would not
last.
16. trying to hide the tears that involuntarily fall from
ur eyes.
17. sharing the one u love w/ someone else.
18. loving a person too much.
19. giving up someone u never thought of giving up.
20. falling in love for the first time
21. loving someone you haven’t seen
22. having the right love at the wrong time.
23. exerting effort to make the relationship last or work.
24. not being appreciated when u know u’ve given ur best.
25. taking the risk to fall in love again.
26. hiding ur relationship from someone else.
27. controlling ur feelings to avoid hurting a friend
28. choosing between 2 persons whom u really love.
29. finding out that u can never have the person u just let
go of back
30. seeing the person u love with someone else
31. Learning that the person who claimed to have loved you
so much never really cared
32. seeing the one you love fall for someone else
33. falling for your best friend an d knowing that things can
never be the same again
34. learning to trust after you have been burned
35. accepting that it was not meant to be
36. smiling when all you want to do is cry
37. falling and knowing that it can never be
38. not being able to love the person who truly cares for
you
39. saying that you can never love a person the way he loves
you
40. hearing that he can never love you the way that you love
him
41. saying that you are over someone you still love
42. being friends again and learning to let go of each other
coz you both know it is better that way
43. convincing oneself that you are not in love when you
know that you are
44. having to let go becuse you know that he deserves
someone else
45. trying not to remember how perfect everything used to be

Loving involves two phases. The first intuitive one is loving the person because of who he/she is. The second nobler one is loving the person despite of wh o he/she is not. The first one sparks love. The second one makes it last.



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13 Signs You’re About To Get Dumped!

Want to know if your relationship is about to hit the skids?

Looking for tell-tale signs that your love will last through next week?

Well, look no further. Below you’ll find the "Unlucky 13" -13 warning signs you’re about to get dumped.

We surveyed a variety of experts to find the most common warning signs a person is about to get dumped –including psychologists, body language experts, graphologists, private investigators and a divorce attorney. And here’s what we found:

1. Is it romantic Armageddon, or uncomfortable shoes?
Where the toes point, the heart follows. According to body language expert Patti Wood, MA, CSP, you should, "look at your sweetie’s feet when you are out with other people." She says, "if they are pointed at you, great." If they’re pointed at someone else, your partner may be looking to walk.

2. You’re starting to feel like a telemarketer.
Is your sweetie anxious to end phone conversations right away? A person who knows she’s going to end the relationship with you, but hasn’t done so yet will be itching to get off the phone with you. If she is talking to you, but not adding anything to the conversation it’s sign she is heading towards the finish line. She’s probably just pacing herself.

3. He’s no longer interested in sex, or worse, he has a new bag of tricks and a trapeze with the tags still on it.
A dramatic change in sexual behavior can mean two things:

a) He wants to avoid any situation where he might have to express emotion or attachment to you, or

b) He’s getting it somewhere else.

4. He avoids talking about the future.
We’re not just talking the general, garden-variety aversion that men have to discussing relationships. We’re talking about a man who avoids having one of those "we have to talk" talks like it’s a shot of the Plague. As for the future, when next Thursday seems like too much of a commitment, it could be because he’s trying to extricate himself by Wednesday night.

5. He says, "I need some space" or "I think we should see other people."
According to psychologist Jesse Rabinowitz, Ph.D, people don’t usually want to hurt someone else, so they use "exit strategies." By telling you he wants to see other people, he’s not technically breaking up with you (so no big crying scene to endure) but he’s given himself a way out. Of course, the second he gets a little distance, he’s going to make a run for it.

6. If she’s looking left, something’s not right.
According to Bill Raduenz, private investigator, a person who looks up into the air and to the left when she speaks to you is "not being truthful." The look left is an indication we’re using the "creative" side of our brains and a good indicator she’s telling you a whopper.

7. He gives you that little pat on the back.
Watch out for this one. A person who gives you a hug while patting you on the back is indicating that they are uneasy. According to Raduenz, the "hand pat" on the back indicates someone is uncomfortable with what they’re doing. The bigger the pat, the more discomfort they feel.

There’s more. Another important sign that things may not be going well is the amount of contact during a hug. Full frontal contact is good. The one-shoulder hug, or pulling away in other areas could be a sign the person is "distancing" in the relationship. If it’s a new relationship, the other person may not be quite ready for that level of physical contact. If it’s an established relationship, it could be a sign the person is pulling away, or getting ready to break off the relationship.

8. You don’t like what you see in the mirror.
People mirror each other’s body language when they are in love with similar gestures, voice volume, etc. If you’re noticing the two of you are out of sync, you probably are.

That’s not all. According to body language expert Wood, a person who is about to dump you will display a lack of open "windows" towards you. "Windows" being his heart, eyes, neck and palms. If your man turns his heart (the center of his chest) away from you as you are talking to each other, it’s a big sign he’s not interested.

9. You see the writing on the wall.
According to graphologist Karen Weinberg, QDE, a person who is thinking of ending a relationship will show clues in her handwriting. When writing the word "love" she may begin to drop down the letter "e." Another sign to watch for is if your partner diminishes the size of your name (sign of your importance to her.)

10. Every normal person should know which way the toilet paper goes…< If she’s picking silly fights, or there’s an unusual increase in emotional distance, you’ve got bad news. According to Melvyn Frumkes, an attorney specializing in divorce, "a person who picks nonsensical arguments is trying to get the other person (you) to make the first move."

11. He keeps you waiting. And waiting. And waiting.
"Time is an important non-verbal communicator," says Wood. If he keeps you waiting, it’s a sign his interest is waning, and a sign of disrespect.

This is true for dates as well. If he starts waiting until the very last minute to make date plans with you, it’s likely he’s lost interest, or he’s hoping something better will come along and he’s using you as a back-up.

12. She buys a personal pager, or a pre-paid cell phone.
This is bad news. Just about every private investigator in the book will tell you the pager purchase is a sign of impending heartbreak. Sure, it could be for work, but more likely, she’s using it to get a head start on her post-you life. Beep Beep - Bye Bye.

13. He used to be a three-blue-shirts-and-four-pair-of-Chinos kind of guy, and suddenly he’s obsessed with Armani.
According to Attorney Mel Frumkes, a person who is about to leave (or is cheating) will take greater care with his appearance - updating his wardrobe, losing weight, working out and even changing cologne. If your sweetie looks like he just finished taping an episode of "A Makeover Story" - Those Chinos might not be the only dud he’s looking to lose.

Want to know when you’re most likely to get the axe? Most experts agree it’s somewhere in the neighborhood of the first 3-5 months. So, stock up on tissues and Ben & Jerry’s if you’re heading into the danger zone.

Only time (and his shoes) will tell.

Life After Love

So, you’ve found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn’t the soul mate you’ve always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn’t have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you’ll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.

Keep a daily journal.
Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.

Learn at least one new thing a day.
Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.

Take a daily walk.
Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.

Go out with yourself.
Just because you are not attached to someone doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you’ve always wanted to go.

Develop a hobby.
Maybe there is something you’ve always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.